The Tale of the Needy Boy
Updated: Nov 15, 2020
Well we all want to be loved. That fairy tale person who will be there for you and loves you unconditionally. Who is always there. Fiercely defending you and wanting to be with you..........unless they want you too much. Unless they are already demanding after 1 date.
I met this boy online. Conversation was brilliant. I really liked him. He was local to HK and said I needed to be patient with his language in case he said something which I misunderstood. Of course I would be. I was hoping he looked like his pictures. He did and was extremely well dressed. I only had a couple of hours before I had to go to the office on the Sunday. We met for coffee and it was fun. We laughed and joked and I went home feeling great! Yes a nice normal one! A guy I could laugh with ( not even drunk) and could have a conversation with.Someone who had shared interests.Then I got home and it started.............the messages and questions.
"How many boyfriends have you had?"
Urrrm define "boyfriends"??? Well, officially only 5 over the last 10 years if you count only the ones I would consider to be a long term or a fairly connected relationship.
"So these are the only men you have slept with?"
Now I would not consider myself a slut, but there has been the odd 1,2,3 night stand. Sometimes a regular "special friend", that I would not consider "a boyfriend". Not one to start a relationship with lying. I was truthful. The questions did not stop.
"How many? How often? What happened? I need to know if we are to be seeing each other...!!!"
I eventually said I was sleeping and left it at that. Morning it started again.
"Are we in a relationship? If not what are we in? Are you my girlfriend?"
If I did not promise to be a relationship it was not going to work. He messaged me every 5 minutes asing me more and more questions which I did not want to answer. Details about what had happened with every single guy I had seen or slept with.
Run, run, run to the hills. Run far. I declined the offer of being a "proper" girlfriend after one 2 hour date. I was told following this I was a bad, dirty girl.......It was so weird.
I'd rather be considered bad and dirty than dating you!!!! I am sure some girl would love this situation. Not me!!!!!
Running and blocking was the best move I ever made!! How about you? Would this be your dream date or would it terrify you as much as it did me?